When someone ask you, “hey, I need a favor” do you say “yes, wassup?” Are you saying yes before you even know what the ask is? Or when someone invites you to go out for their birthday and you feel obligated to say yes, but really you just want to sit on the couch and binge watch an emotional show on Netflix. I do that all the time! I am the kind of person who says yes frequently, even though sometimes my mind is screaming no. I’m sure we have all been there before, with me it’s just been more often. So learning the art of saying no will change your life!
But here’s the thing, we need to remember “no” is not a bad word. “No” is one of the most powerful word we can use to take control of our lives and prioritize our well-being. We just need to learn the art of saying “no” in a way that it’s firm, yet kind, and will leave you feeling empowered.
What we need to understand is that saying “no” does not mean you are a bad person. It just means you are setting boundaries, being honest, and showing yourself some respect. The next time someone ask you something that you don’t technically want to do, take a pause, and look at them sincerely and say “no, thank you”.
As a people pleaser like I am, saying no can be difficult. I learned that if I acknowledge the request and thank them for thinking of me, and say something positive about the question; then politely decline makes it easier for me to say “no”. Or you can also offer an alternative solution that works better for you and your needs.
It is very important to give yourself the time you need to care for yourself. I know it’s very easy to fill your weekends with events, but also remember you need some “self love” time! You will thank yourself in the long run! For myself, on the weekends I love to spend my mornings in the gym and then end with some sauna time. Then, I like to make my ginger juice for the week! (I will talk about the ginger juice on another post) Lastly, I like to spend time writing my blogs. I usually save the night time for anything spontaneous that might come up! Today, I had a list minute invite to go see JO KOY at the SAP center in San Jose! JO KOY is an extremely funny comedian, and it’s an invite I was definitely happy to say “YES” to. Shout out to our friends Leslie and Jason!!!!! Thanks for the invite!!!
In conclusion, be honest, and say “no” if you don’t feel like doing something. Trust me, set the boundary and take control, it is worth it! The art of saying no!
